These 3 Actions Could Change Everything

Trying to transform your life all at once is overwhelming. It’s hard to make big, sudden changes stick. For real lasting change, focusing on making healthier, regular habits is the work that creates actual change. It’s something I work on everyday.

It’s easier to change one or two things at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed. We can only focus on one thing at a time anyway. Multitasking is a myth, usually leading to unfinished projects and feeling scattered.

Let’s say you want to get into better shape. You’ve promised yourself to workout several times per week, but it just isn’t happening.

These 3 actions will help you make it work.

1. Believe. Clear out the belief that it’s too much for you. You have to believe you can do it, otherwise you’re trying to force it, feeling like a fraud. Stop torturing yourself and start believing it’s happening because it is. It’s safe for you to change. With daily practice, you will gain momentum. Affirmations, morning mindset inspiration, and tapping can help you develop a stronger belief in your abilities and your vision.

2. Make arrangements in your relationships. Be aware that the people you spend time with and give your attention to are affecting your habits right now. This is the biggest factor that will help you - or trip you up. It’s hard enough to generate that inner spark to get up early and workout. A bunch of stubbornly sedentary people may not be super helpful.

There are lots of people out there doing what you want to do. It’s a way of living that you are working toward, it’s not just about the weight. You are making changes to the way you live your life.

The way that you live shows. Isn’t it true that when you see someone, you have an instinctive idea about how they live? I’m not talking about judging, I’m talking about how someone spends their time. Fit people spend more time working out. So, that is what your underlying goal is. To spend more focused time on fitness. If the people around you don’t spend their time working out, chances are you won’t either, because that’s not how time is spent where you are. It’s not what people do where you are.

If you can’t be around your fit community directly, at least be aware of others who are doing it. Identify with them, get into the groove however you can. Maybe take a class, check out the Nike app, join a Facebook group, or just read a magazine.

It helps to plan ahead how you’ll respond if your family members either start judging you, or they don’t want you to change things up. Think of ways you can change the subject, distract them, or focus on the positive. You could have a talk with them and set your boundaries or try to work out a compromise. You get up at 5:30am to work out, for example. Ask them what they think mutual support would look like for this change. Can you work out a compromise? Your desire to make this happen will help you find creative solutions. Maybe they’ll join you.

You may or may not get support. You may seriously annoy people with your self improvement stuff. That’s okay! Making a change is a process, so feel the power in your power to choose to be healthier. There is also power in compassion. Protect your mind and heart, and make it happen.

Know that it’s your life and no one gets to be more powerful in your life than you are. If anyone tries to stop you from doing your thing, it’s their problems coming up. They are afraid to see their own faults.

Relationship stuff and going against the status quo is some of the deepest, real work of growth into a new, healthier life. Reward yourself.

3. Commit, commit, commit! Let your commitment to your schedule have the final word. Don’t argue with it. You know you’ve thought it through and worked it out. You know why you want to do it. It’s natural, healthy and reasonable to do it. You have a right to it and a duty to be your healthiest. You have to let the arguments die to embrace the new. This is what you do now. This is your commitment.

If you do these 3 things, you’ll be amazed at the progress you make.

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